Think back to your last argument; was being “happy” or being “right” more important to the outcome for you? Did you have to get the last word in? Did you stir the pot just to rub it in?
We always feel like we need to prove something by being right. We like adding our opinion, telling others they are wrong to make us feel better (or superior), and feeling satisfied with a winning argument.
The problem with this (addiction) is the energy to do so is exhaustible, especially when we go out of our way to do it. For the tough topics, there are no “winning” results.
Instead, an alternative strategy is to live the way you believe is right, and let others learn from this example. Instead of overtly trying to convince everyone your way is the right way, simply allow a natural attraction to happen in alignment with your mission, values, and your actions.
The other consequence of this decision is being able to let go of opinions that differ from your own. If you feel the need to be “right,” how does an argument end with someone on the other side of the (proverbial) aisle from you?
There is nothing wrong with sharing your point of view, but the expectation of convincing someone of your opinion (as fact) is what we’re referring to. “Agree to disagree” (and be happy, calm, and content afterwards) is the goal.
The next time you catch yourself feeling the need to be right, ask yourself, “What will I (truly) win by being “right?”
Look through your relationships and seek out a better way to share and learn, from business to personal to intimate to social media; how can we leave each disputed conversation in a better way?
Go live your best day ever — show ’em how it’s done.